Based on the statements of Flor Vigna (28), who said that You can only be intimate with people to whom you have an emotional bond.the demisexuality It was put on everyone’s lips and became the subject of debate on social networks.
In fact, following Vigna’s statements, while some personalities such as Noe Antonelli confessed to having said sexual orientation, others admitted their complete ignorance on the subject. But ultimately: how would we describe demisexuality?
What is being demisexual?
Demisexuality is a term used to define a sexual orientation in which the person does not feel sexual attraction towards others if there is no prior emotional connection.
demisexual people experience secondary sexual attraction, they privilege the affective over the sexual and only maintain intimacy in the case of mediating a deep bond with their partner. In such a way, that they do not relate governed by the physical appearance, but by the special connection that they achieve with their pair.
The word “demisexual” is a term from Latin roots meaning “half sexual.” In French, demi means “half“. It refers to those people “divided in two” who show little or no interest in erotic experiences until they achieve a bond.
In the demisexual flag, the black triangle refers to the asexual spectrum, the white stripe corresponds to sexuality, the violet one to the sense of community, and the gray stripe represents demisexuality itself.
Misinformation regarding demisexuality
“There is some confusion and misinformation around the concept of demisexuality. Some people may confuse it with other sexual orientations or interpret it incorrectly. This may be due, in part, to the lack of information and the almost null representation of demisexuality in popular culture and in sexual education“, explained to PEOPLE Agustín Barletta, Institutional Director of Trans Argentinxs.
“It is important to note that demisexuality is not the same as sexual abstinence, lack of interest in sex, or asexuality. Demisexual people do experience sexual attraction, but only after establishing an emotional connection with another person. It is essential to promote comprehensive sexual education and the representation of all sexual orientations to reduce misinformation and confusion around demisexuality and other sexual identities,” he added.
Celebrities who came out as demisexual
In recent days the actress and singer vine flower She explained that she discovered that she was “demisexual”, a concept unknown to most people, so she herself took it upon herself to explain what it is about and what this term consists of.
It was in dialogue with Infobae, where they asked him how he lived the moment in which he separated from Nico Occhiato: “A lot of time and reality had passed, and I am telling it here, which is a lot, I was not with someone in the middle. I felt that I was not going to warm up with anyone, that it was not going to happen to me, and the Another day I learned that this sensation that one has is called demisexual. I can’t have something sexual with a person without something bonding happening to me, without there being cute chemistry. Otherwise I can’t.”
In this way, Vigna introduced a new word in the vocabulary of social networks, where a wide debate was generated, even many people assumed themselves as such and others questioned biasedly that it was something that “mostly affected women” .
“This has to do with the cultural programming to which women were historically subjected. A type of ’emotional training’ related to understanding that they are more sensitive, more protective, more affectionate, more loving and more victims of passion than men, who historically were set up as tougher and less emotional people. This paradigm is still in force and generates that this thought is reflected in social networks, “he assured PEOPLE Franco Torchia, journalist specializing in gender and diversity.
As a result of these statements, other media personalities were able to discover their sexuality. Such was the case of the journalist Noah Antonelliwho commented: “I am 100% demisexual, but I did not know that this category existed. You saw when you went to the bowling alley and suddenly you had one that immediately had a momentary physical attraction with a skinny guy. Well, it never happened to me.”
The foreign figures who opened the conversation about demisexuality
In the world, there are a few other entertainment figures who have come to terms with their demisexuality when learning about this concept. The actress who plays Piper Willis in the Australian soap opera Neighbors, mavournee hazelcame out as demisexual after admitting she used to think there was “something wrong” with her.
“I used to think there was something wrong with me or that I was broken because I wasn’t in the dating game, but as I got older I realized that there is a whole spectrum. I identify as demisexual, which means you don’t see people in a sexual way and it’s close to being asexual. The only time I think I fell in love was after two years because I knew the person so well, like my best friend.“, he assured in dialogue with SportsGirl.
Another case is that of Michaela Kennedy-Cuomodaughter of the Governor of New York, Andrew Cuomo, who recently defined himself as demisexual. “When I was in elementary school, I was afraid that I was a lesbian. When I was in high school, I told my family and friends that I was bisexual. When I was in high school, I found out about pansexuality and I thought, ‘That’s the flag for me.’ … but I recently learned more about demisexuality and I think that identity resonates more with me.“, he expressed in an Instagram live.
What is queerbaiting
Recently, some celebrities were accused of making “queer baiting” a common practice in the music industry. entertainment such as books, movies, and music, which is considered “a marketing ploy” to attract audiences by creating sexual tension or romantic scenarios between people of the same sex.
Figures like Billie Eilish, Harry Styles or Timothée Chalamet were recently accused of engaging in these practices due to their public attitudes, which send messages that can be confusing for the audience.
“Queerbaiting can trivialize and reduce the LGBTIQ+ community to a mere marketing ploy rather than an authentic representation of their lives and experiences. This can perpetuate stereotypes and prejudices towards the LGBTIQ+ community and minimize the importance of positive and authentic representation.. It can make LGBTIQ+ people feel insecure and less validated in their identity and sexuality. This can increase stigma and discrimination,” he explained. Augustine Barletta.
Although in the first instance, the queerbaiting it seems harmless, it reinforces the heteronormative in the media and, as a consequence, it continues to favor the lack of queer representation in them.
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